I was. It was a lot of work emotionally, mentally and physically. My sister and I were named Executor- well Executrix since I am a woman and my sister was named Executrix also, if for some reason I was unable to carry out the duties involved.
I lived in Jersey and my sister lived in New York at the time. My uncle’s Estate was in Seattle, Washington. That’s a five hour flight from LaGuardia JFK airport. Unfortunately, I wasn’t driving at the time and our brother, John came with us for ease of transportation.
I hadn’t been to Seattle since I was 14 when I visited for the first time with my mom, Vera. We visited My Aunt Ryoko and their dog, Jero Son. Jero Son means Harold, Jr. according to my Aunt because they didn’t have any children. Lol. I always thought that was so cute because my uncle was always annoyed with the dog barking and my aunt Ryoko (we lovingly call her Yoko), would make such a fuss because that was her “baby”. My aunt passed away in 2004 and my uncle kept the dogs they had at that time in remembrance of my aunt. They became very close over the years. By the time we arrived to visit my uncle, Chewy was pretty much in charge. I had to straighten him out while we were there and remind him who was the boss….. ME! Lol.
Fast forward to February 2014 and we visited my uncle a few months earlier and he too passed in February, actually one day before my birthday of that year. We had to fly to Seattle. The lawyer who was handling my uncle’s papers wouldn’t tell me anything until after he called the hospital and confirmed that my uncle was deceased. He then phoned me to get my contact information and extended his services to us to handle what needed to be handled. I looked over the paperwork and my sister and I decided not to hire my uncle’s attorney to do anything for us because we felt he overcharged my uncle every chance he got and we weren’t going to let him take advantage of us. Seattle has a great website to assist you through the process. We found another attorney to consult and he was excellent.
This was my first time ever going through a process like this and my uncle had a lot of paperwork to get through. It got emotional between my sister and I with whether or not to list the home for sale. Being a Realtor and not from the area, I considered very strongly just selling it to an investor and moving on. After discussing it with my sister we decided to put the home on the market. My uncle’s neighbor had a friend who was a Realtor. We listed the home with her. The home sold for $10k Over asking price. We were very pleased. A decision we were very happy we made.
This was a very emotional experience for all of us and we hit a few bumps in the road along the way. There were some highly emotional moments that could have turned out very ugly. Since my sister and I are close, we knew that uncle would not be pleased so we worked it out and came through the experience with our relationship still intact. Whew!
Would I do it again? I hope I am not given that task anytime soon. It was very stressful. If you are ever appointed Executor/Executrix of a family member’s estate, go into the situation with a clear mind and clear emotions. Keep Love at the forefront and you shouldn’t go wrong.
I share this experience in remembrance of my uncle, Harold J. Hardy this Memorial Day.
Love will keep it together~~~~
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